Dear Prudence: My partner and his therapist are wary of couples therapy. What do you think?

Dear Prudence: My partner and I have been together for eight years , but we have been having some serious conflicts lately.

I have expressed wanting to go to couples therapy, but my partner says that both he and his therapist think that’s a bad idea.

I understand why both of them think that way; I have a lot of privileges that my partner does not that will affect how a third -party views us and our dynamic.

I don't think talking to our own therapists separately is going to help.

Jenée: Most of this feels like there’s an unnecessary amount of analysis that is preventing this couple from moving forward.

Nadira: Therapy shouldn’t be a third party in your relationship of two ! Nadira suggests skipping two episodes and doing a search for a new provider, which could be as simple as a social media post.

Nadira : I think in the back of my mind I was hoping maybe the right therapist might talk them through a conscious uncoupling, if you will.

Jenée: I have my eye on that therapist.

Nadira also thinks more therapizing for this couple could knock them even further down this rabbit hole.