How to Do It: I’m 45 and my husband, John, is 47. I’ve been spending time with a 26-year-old. I’m considering telling him how I feel about him. Do I keep silent on him for fear of how he’ll take it

A 45-year-old woman has been spending time with a 26-year old colleague.

Her husband, 47 , has become a bit more boring through the years.

She's considering telling him how she feels about Alex , but he's too busy to do anything spontaneous.

She should talk about the crush to draw John 's attention to the state of your relationship.

A few years ago , my wife and I started down the path of pursuing more exciting sex lives.

We mutually agreed to open up to ethical non-monogamy.

Recently, I met someone at a work event, and I asked her to dinner.

I texted my wife to tell her what I was doing, and she replied, “Sounds good” Now that I know she doesn’t really trust me, I feel sort of objectified and under her thumb.

Dear How to Do It: Tell her that an arrangement in which she gets to explore and you don’t is just not going to work with you.

She should have the freedom to respond to sexual stimuli as she sees fit, and not have the pressure of putting on a show for you and your ego.