How to do it: I’m a 42-year-old woman and I have an interesting situationship with a guy friend of mine. What can we do to make the sexting sessions as hot as the sexting?

A 42-year-old woman has been sexting with a guy friend for four years .

She wants to make the reality just as hot as the sexts she sexted with him.

The book is so often better than the movie: Imagination is limitless, and reality can't always hack it.

If you have an explicit agreement not to have sex separately, she clearly violated it.

If you didn't have explicit agreement, but every time you’ve had sex with others, you had an implicit agreement, she was still wrong to breach it.

Don’t hold it against her too severely. Let her have her mistake, and accept her assurance that this is the last time.

You present your lack of penis-in-vagina penetration as a problem, but what does he think? Have you talked about this with him? Maybe it’s something he doesn’t feel in control of, but is psychologically rooted all the same.

If this is a persistent problem and he sees it as such, he should talk to a professional like a urologist.

He is, after all, in his 50s , and many men at that age experience ED.