Prudence: My family is pressuring me to apologize and make up with my brother. Do you have a script for telling them to back off?

Dear Prudence: Do we combine the wedding shower with the baby shower or hold them as separate events? If the timing means the two events would be happening close together, you first have to think about logistics and what’s actually possible.

If the thought of putting on two celebrations gives you anxiety, or if you know that many potential attendees are stretched thin or tend to be flaky, combine the events.

Dear Prudie: My wife and I have two kids, and we didn’t give them traditional names but short one -syllable ones.

My mother always uses song nicknames for my sister and me, so my sister was Lo Lo Lee Ah as a baby.

She says my mother is being passive-aggressive and petty about the name choices.

You could ask her directly, but that might put her in an uncomfortable position.