How to do it: Don’t be an accessory to cheating if you want to live ethically

A woman found a sex toy among the bedding when she was changing bedding after guests left.

The sex toy was found in the sheets, but it's not ethical to keep it there, Stoya says.

Stoya: Don’t be an accessory to cheating if you want to live ethically.

Dear How to Do It: Give it a week to see if they end up reaching out and then if not, send a text that doesn't spell out the situation entirely.

If they’re wealthy and have the means to easily replace a missing sex toy, the situation may be less urgent.

For others still, it’s a defining part of all aspects of the relationship.

Going along with your partner’s kinks in which you have no interest can be a generous, loving thing.

If you’re not inclined to dom, it can be exhausting, after a while, to have to assert yourself.

Focus on the aspects of this dynamic that turn you on, and avoid what makes you feel icky or apathetic.