I fear I’m doing friendship wrong: why do we lose the art of just hanging out?

Photographer Lee Miller and his friend Tanja Ramm pictured having breakfast in bed at Miller 's studio in Paris in 1931 .

It's a scene about love but, above all, it’s about friendship, says author.

Staying in a friend's room or apartment felt like being on an island safe, cosy and fun.

Sometimes it was about whispering, giggling and sharing secrets.

In trying to hold on to old friendships, we often forget how fragile new connections can be.

People’s diaries are already full with families, work and the handful of old friends they barely manage to keep.

So we stick to the friends we already have, even when the contours of those friendships keep changing.

Nora Ephron said: “It's hard when you don’t like someone a friend marries, it means you pretty much have to confine your friendship to lunch, and I hate lunch”.

We had both slept blissfully. I felt safe with her. The room was our island. We stayed in bed talking under the thick, white sheets until I almost missed my train to Berlin . In the afternoon , I received a text from her: “It was so cosy in bed this morning . This is how life should be.” Yes. Exactly that. Not lunch. - Carolin Würfel is a writer, screenwriter and journalist who lives in Berlin and Istanbul . She is the author of Three Women Dreamed of Socialism and a regular contributor to Die Zeit .