How to do it: Is it rational for my husband to say he can’t see that he’s no longer attracted to me?

Dear How to Do It: He watched our baby being born, and he said after seeing that he is squicked out over going back to sex because according to him, “I eat at that restaurant.” He says he knows it’s not rational, but can’t get past it.

Having children often changes things for couples.

The potential for germs after sex, let alone multiple instances of sex performed by multiple bodies, is high.

Your wife is concerned about germs and says now that we have kids it isn’t a good idea.

It is highly unlikely that dreams of Amy are propelling Milton ’s sleep-talking.

Your suspicion comes down to confirmation bias after Amy has rubbed you the wrong way.

Your husband could just be fantasizing about her.

Instead of accusing, instead of acting as though you’ve collected evidence, present what you have observed Milton saying in his sleep and ask if he can explain it.