Dear Care and Feeding: I moved in with my parents eight months ago and they refuse to crate their blind and deaf dog

A 40-year-old woman moved in with her parents due to their health issues and their need for more assistance.

They have a dog, " Rover ," who is blind and deaf and can't be left alone.

A vet says Rover is not in pain, but it's time to think about putting him down.

The dog is not going to be the last of these conflicts, but as time passes, their own needs for care will be greater.

I think you need to let your parents come to this moment themselves.

Arranging for the cousins to get together might be tricky now, but surely it is not impossible.

A 3.5-year-old won't wipe her own nose when it's dripping.

Her brother-in-law won't attend family functions because he doesn't want to be around you.

Letting these two little boys continue to see each other is a small thing you can do with a big impact.