How do I explain my feelings to my husband in a way that won’t crush him?

Dear How to Do It: My husband can't eat or drink by mouth and is on a feeding tube.

For the past three years , sex has basically been him fondling my breasts and me going down on him.

Even with help from some Viagra , he can’t get very hard now. I’ve basically lost interest in having sex.

Advice from a straight, 24-year-old female and never had an orgasm.

Is this even normal? Is my body just designed not to have an orgasm? Send us your questions about the work and dating at Slate . Send us Your Questions About the Workplace !.