Care and Feeding: Is it wrong to put your needs above those of your parents?

Dear Care and Feeding : My parents feel like we have cut them off because we moved without considering them.

They think we should travel back and forth with the kids when they want and love to make catty remarks about my in-laws.

You're not wrong to have put your needs above those of your parents.

You need to have a heart-to-heart with your parents about the decision.

Dear Care and Feeding: How do you handle 7-year-olds ? I love my youngest brother, but I was annoyed by his sisters at this age, too, too.

I can't have a five-minute conversation with my mom about a permission slip because he gets upset that someone else is talking to our mom.

Ask for boundaries that put the focus on you, not him.

Adopt some self-soothing tactics.

Read some child psychology to get a deeper appreciation for what is going on during this stage of childhood.

Lying on the floor might help you tap into the things you love about being the older sibling.