Dear Care and Feeding: I believe my brother’s wife killed him. What should I do?

On Thanksgiving , my brother complained of pain and swelling in his calf muscle.

His wife downplayed it, said it was “just a cramp,” pointed out that it was a holiday, gave him some Tylenol , and told him he could put a heating pad on it.

He was pronounced dead by the paramedics; no life-saving measures were taken.

Your anger is bigger, wider than you think it is.

Making your sister-in-law its scapegoat is not going to help you feel better.

Making people do something “for the family” that they don’t want to do is a path to estrangement.

Babies sometimes have a way of bringing families together.

She is generally an avoider of tasks she doesn’t prefer, but this situation is frustrating and irritating to me.

Michelle: How can I tell the real sickness from the fake sickness? Michelle : Help her develop the skills and strategies she needs (we all need!) to deal with what she fears, dreads, or just dislikes.