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I offered to paint a mural for my sister-in-law's baby's nursery.

She painted it over and tagged me on social media.

She never apologized and was offended that I even got upset.

She also had the gall to be ungrateful for the generous Uber Eats gift card she gave her cousin.

Ask your boys if they like having people over with everyone on their devices or are they just going along with it to get along? If they don't like it, ask them if there are other games and toys that you can make sure are out and within eyesight for them to distract their friends with.

You could also talk to the parents in advance and ask them to have the kids leave their devices at home.

Ask Cheyna: Why not spend Thanksgiving day at your family’s house or vice-versa? Cheyna suggests looking for areas to compromise.

She suggests splitting up some of the time with your parents around Christmas .

Cheyna 's daughter has severe acne and is extremely annoyed if she suggests seeing a dermatologist.