Q: I’m in an 11-year relationship with a wonderful woman and she has two adult sons. How can I bring this to her attention?

I'm in an 11-year relationship with a wonderful woman but I don't want or like having her grown sons around all of the time.

Many couples (even married ones!) are together for long periods of time and still maintain separate households, especially if one has kids from a previous relationship.

I think asking her to choose will damage your relationship more than it will help it grow.

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