Dear Prudence: Is it too dramatic to tell my ex-husband how he's ruined my life?

When I was 13 , my father began sexually abusing me, until I had the courage to report him at 15 .

He and his "new wife" convinced a naive 15-year-old me to drop all charges, and I moved out of state a year later with the man who would become my husband of 15 years now.

After 10 years of not speaking, in an attempt to “forgive and forget, and move on” as advised by some therapists, I reached out to him to let him know we had had a baby.

I immediately cut off all communication, with no explanation to him, as I became angry again that this was now affecting my marriage.

Dear Prudence : Do you think you two are still compatible, or have you truly grown apart? If you contemplate all this and the answer is “I was wrong to yell at her, I really want her back in my life, and I want us to be friends for years to come,” you have to tell her.

Your husband wants to lend our spare car to his sister-in-law so she can go to work.

When we were dating, my wife kept splitting and getting back together over the big things: she wanted to start a family.

Two years later , we were married and she asked me to have a child anyway.

We now have a 10-month-old , and I am filled with regret, and resentment toward my wife.

If I could divorce her without hurting my child, I would. But I’m not willing to hurt my child just so I can.