How to do it: A 30-year-old who can’t come to terms with orgasm

A 30-year-old mostly straight/kind of bi woman can't come easily with new partners.

She wants a fulfilling sex life where connection and security are present, without having to be in a monogamous long-term relationship.

Let’s separate monogamy from long-distance relationships, as they don’t necessarily require each other.

The world is your oyster, but you’ll want to proceed carefully when it comes to surprises.

You might invest in some gear (lingerie, or a costume) that fits with the types of interactions you've been having.

Consider having a conversation about what each of you is enjoying and what you'd like to explore.