Hélne Biandudi Hofer: The right fight is having a good, healthy argument that actually goes somewhere

Hélène Biandudi Hofer , 42 , is an award-winning journalist best known for her work melding principles of storytelling, conflict mediation and solutions journalism.

Hofer grew up in a biracial household in Columbus , Ohio .

She says the right fight is having a good, healthy argument that doesn't end in divorce, outrage, broken friendships.

There has to be the will to see the person as human first , rather than demonizing them or seeing them as “the other.

People are relatively selfish. We think about ourselves first — our wants and our needs are not being met, it’s hard to have a healthy argument, especially if this other person is influencing the needs that we have.