I’m a very sexual person, and have been my entire life. What can I do?

Erectile dysfunction doesn’t necessarily reflect how he feels about me, says Stoya and Rich.

He’s struggling significantly with desire, and even if he does feel desire, he's having a really difficult time getting hard.

He's uncomfortable talking about it (he thinks it's an old man problem). Stoya: Don't share your insecurities with your guy; it'll just add to the pressure.

A 40-something heteroflexible man in a two-year relationship with a wonderful nonbinary person who he adores and finds very attractive.

But he can't get to orgasm and can't orgasm with his partner.

He has been thinking about ending the relationship for almost a year, but has never taken action on it.

If you're getting hard and finishing by yourself, what you're experiencing with your partner probably isn’t a precursor to erectile dysfunction.

More likely, it could have something to do with masturbation technique or the way your parts fit with partner’s.

The good news is that your partner thus far has seemingly accepted your body in its uniqueness.