Dear Prudence: My brother was married and had twins. How do I approach this without ruining our relationship?

My brother was married and had twins who are now teenagers.

He got a divorce two years ago and immediately moved in with his female coworker.

He still hasn't told me personally. How do I approach this without ruining our relationship? Your brother already took significant steps toward ruining your relationship by keeping a secret.

Dear Dinner Party: Forgive yourself for not saying anything at the moment.

Reach out to the woman of color but to the white woman.

If she apologizes and is mortified, great. If she doesn't respond well, you’ll have to decide what kind of relationship you want to have with her going forward.