Q. My sister-in-law raised two high-achieving kids and speaks authoritatively and confidently on parenting. How should I navigate this?

My sister-in-law raised two high-achieving kids and speaks very authoritatively and confidently on parenting.

My husband really trusts his sister and takes what she says as gospel truth.

Having “high achieving” kids at prestigious colleges is not the definitive marker of being a good parent.

You and your husband should be taking your sister’s advice with the same level of skepticism.

I am 70 , and caring for an infant more than a few hours at a time is difficult for me. My daughter has a nanny in the mornings and early afternoons , but if she has to work late, she calls me to come over without advance notice, sometimes four days in a week . On weekends, she drops her daughter off with no warning and gets angry if I am out of the house..