Why does losing an adult friendship result in such profound sadness and feel like such a personal failure?

A.J. writes to readers about a friend who's slowly backing out of her life.

Left on Read: At what point do you kind of give up, and let someone fall out of your life? It's entirely possible that she really is just busy, and can’t prioritize texting right now.

No one is worth that. Detaching with love is definitely a new muscle, one that needs to be worked on constantly.

The first step in building this muscle is self-awareness. Do an honest TSA body scan of yourself every day: Co-dependency (beep! people-pleasing) your own depression.