How do I handle my girlfriend’s weight loss?

Dear How to Do It: My girlfriend lost a lot of weight during a rough patch and I feel so guilty I can barely get hard.

Rich Juzwiak : Sometimes I think grief or guilt can be selfish and tainting.

Jessica Stoya : Don't let this narrative lock in a set of beliefs that prevent medical follow-up.

A letter writer writes to the author of a letter to her girlfriend about her weight loss.

Jessica says the writer is so wrapped up in their guilt that they’re not seeing the bigger picture.

The writer and her girlfriend need to focus on rebuilding the relationship and working through it, she says.

The writer should try to set aside the usual scripts for a penis needing to be hard and used for penetration.

Don’t be afraid to rely on external help, like a cock ring or a PDE5 inhibitor.

Jessica : If infinite resources are possible, go for the individual therapy, couples therapy on top of that.