Ask Prudence: I was emotionally abused by my mom growing up. How do I reconcile with her?

I was emotionally abused by my mom growing up.

She used her blog as fodder for her adoring fans.

She ate up the attention and never gave a thought to what it cost me.

My mother has a cancer diagnosis and is begging me to reconcile, but the thought of potentially losing my mother makes me sick.

Dear Prudie: Be honest with your BIL about how you feel about what you did for him for free.

Dear Prudence : My father was borderline abusive, and we had a difficult relationship so it’s hard for me to talk about how great he was to my family.

Prudice: Use her bids for closeness as opportunities to ask questions and learn about life with parents.

Prudie recently met a guy on Tinder , where she usually doesn't have much luck because she's not conventionally attractive.

But after talking to this guy for a few days , she thinks we seem practically perfect for each other! Same hobbies, similar taste in music, kink-compatible, he's funny and self-aware, and I think he's hot as hell.

But in the middle of a conversation he dropped that he’s poly.