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Why some people on dating apps just want to be 'pen pals'

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A single woman in her thirties has found herself in several pen pal situationships on dating apps.

The most recent experience brought with it several valuable — albeit painful — lessons.

I'd matched with a man on Bumble and immediately we got chatting and there was a palpable connection.

We agreed to keep chatting until we were both in a position to meet up in the new year .

When I swipe on dating apps, I often see 'no pen pals' in people's bios.

Annabelle Knight , sex and relationship expert at Lovehoney , says there's a few reasons for 'pen pal' behaviour.

Anna Hint , dating expert at dating app Pure , also suggested a few explanations for this behaviour.

What if you're only looking for a pen pal on dating apps? If you're not ready to date in person, or perhaps you want to explore intimacy purely over texting for the time being, honesty is the best policy.

Make your intentions clear from the very outset and give the person the choice of whether this arrangement works for them too.